Monday, June 6, 2011

Young Adult Fiction.

I started out with a teaching career, and because of it, found myself reading a lot of Young Adult Fiction. The teaching career went away, but not the love of that genre. Because of this, I follow a few YA authors's blogs. Sunday afternoon, I read blog after blog defending the genre.

Why would Laurie Halse Anderson, the author of Speak, or Diane Duane, the author of the Young Wizards series, or countless other authors and teens tweet about this?

Because the Wall Street Journal published an article claiming that "Contemporary fiction for teens is rife with explicit abuse, violence and depravity."

Well yes, some of it is. The new rash of YA Dystopian Post-Apocalyptic fiction is harsh. But that goes with the category. The Vampire and Werewolf books are too. Again, comes with the category.

Their issues are with the books that have basis in real problems that real teens share: suicide, rape, sexuality, eating disorders, bullying, abuse. Laurie Halse Anderson wrote: "Teens are drawn to YA books when they don’t have loving, trustworthy adults in their lives who will listen to them. Kids who have been raped, harassed, neglected, abused, ignored, misunderstood – the list seems endless sometimes – open these books in search of answers."

So what is the problem? According to Meghan Cox Gurdon: "Yet it is also possible—indeed, likely—that books focusing on pathologies help normalize them and, in the case of self-harm, may even spread their plausibility and likelihood to young people who might otherwise never have imagined such extreme measures. Self-destructive adolescent behaviors are observably infectious and have periods of vogue." Teens do copycat, but thinking that cutting or eating disorders are glamorous because of a book is silly. Most of these novels don't glamorize it. They show how destructive and dangerous these behaviors are.

In the end, I think the answer is simple. TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!! If they are reading books that you find too graphic, ask them why. Ask your kids how they felt about the material. Ask them if they know of anyone in that situation. just talk.

I'm going to end with Anderson's words on the subject.

I know what makes people like Meghan Cox Gurdon afraid of YA literature. I mentioned it during the BEA panel on censorship. As a preacher’s kid, and as someone who loves a lot of conservatives, and lives in a rural, conservative community, I understand the adults who are terrified of YA books. I feel compassion for them.

Because it’s not the books they’re afraid of.

They are afraid of their inability to talk to their kids about the scary, awful, real-world stuff that is out there. And they know, deep-down, that even if their own children are blessed with violence- and trauma-free childhoods and adolescences, their kids will daily come in contact with other kids who aren’t that lucky. So they know they should be talking about this stuff, but they don’t know where to start. And when their kid starts reading books about subjects that make Mom and Dad uncomfortable, the reaction is to get rid of the book, instead of summoning the courage and faith to have conversations that make them uneasy.

That is sad. Kids and teens need their parents to be brave and honest to prepare them for the real world.

In my experience, the parents who scream the loudest about YA books tend to have younger kids. They become aware of the genre when their oldest child enters middle school, just as they are realizing the enormity of the challenges of parenting teens. As their family survives the bumps along the road of middle and high school, they become more confident in their own parenting skills and they accept (sometimes embrace!) the opportunities presented by these books.

Great young adult literature connects us. It bridges the darkness. It saves lives. Thousands of people are testifying about the life-saving abilities of YA books on Twitter. I urge you to read their thoughts, and to share your own stories here, at the Wall Street Journal, or on your own blog or social media space.

Friday, June 3, 2011

The Magdalene Sisters

I'd once written that I loved the accessories of Catholicism. Some of its practices leave me ill.

When I studied abroad in Galway, Ireland I lived with some lovely Italian ladies. You know, Catholics from the land of the Pope. According to my roommates, the Irish are some super breed of uber-catholics. Well maybe not quite, but you get my point.

Religion went too far with the Magdalene Asylums (or Magdalene Laundries). Unwed mother, girls who had been raped, girls that were too pretty and other "fallen" women were locked into Catholic (and sometimes Protestant) convents and were forced to do backbreaking labor until they had repented for their sins.

The first Laundries opened in the mid 19th century, when society's view of sex placed all of the blame and shame on women. The church ruled society, and influenced the attitudes toward sex. The church set up these Asylums, taking in unwed mothers, prostitutes, and eventually raped women (that were blamed for the assault) and others. Women here were prisoners, working from sun up to sun down. They were beaten, ridiculed by the nuns and society. The women were inmates at the Laundries until a family member could vouch for them. Since having children out of wedlock was a significant scandal, most families turned their backs on these women.

The last Laundry closed in 1996.

Rent The Magdalene Sisters or Sex in a Cold Climate . Trust me. Just do it.

One post of many today...

... I'm alone in the office and get prolific when left alone.

The High School Religious Education classes at church are using various movies, and television shows as a springboard to discussing bigger theological issues.

They are starting with Joan of Arcadia. Um, YAY! I ADORE that show. Recently the Spousal Equivalent and I got the series from Netflix. One day when watching that, I ran across this. The 10 commandments of the writers of Joan of Arcadia:

1. God cannot directly intervene.
2. Good and evil exist.
3. God can never identify one religion as being right.
4. The job of every human being is to fulfill his or her true nature.
5. Everyone is allowed to say "no" to God, including Joan.
6. God is not bound by time. This is a human concept.
7. God is not a person and does not possess a human personality.
8. God talks to everyone all the time in different ways.
9. God's plan is what is good for us, not what is good for him.
10. God's purpose for talking to Joan, and everyone, is to get her (us) to recognize the interconnectedness of all things - i.e., you cannot hurt a person without hurting yourself; all of your actions have consequences; God can be found in the smallest actions; God expects us to learn and grow from all our experiences. However, the exact nature of God is a mystery, and the mystery can never be solved.
I was rather struck by this. Within those simple ten rules are many of the beliefs that I hold about religion and the existence of a higher power.

Now, if it wasn't for the language, I think that class should watch Dogma. In all of its zany Kevin Smith hijinks... it has a message that I think is powerful for religion in today's world. You shouldn't hold beliefs. Those are too rigid and can't change as time and society does. You should hold religious ideas.

And don't bless your golf clubs to get a better golf game.Link

Thursday, June 2, 2011

According to me, I am the Meanest Person Ever!

(Most of my former students would agree).

I got a Facebook invite for a fundraiser. It's a cause I wholeheartedly support. But I deleted the invite. I also deleted every invite I've gotten to various "come buy my stuff" parties too.

This said fundraiser said you could donate money or donate miles run. The details were exceedingly sketchy. Actually, the whole thing confused me. But needles to say, I am unable to participate.

Why?

1.) I. don't. run. I will run if I'm late. I will run if I'm chased (by a bear, or a scary person with a weapon). But running and fun are never part of the same sentence in my vocabulary. It hurts my ankles. It hurts my knees. I stop breathing. And do I have to mention cheap sports bras and a D cup?

2.) Donating money. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not against charitable giving. Far from it! If I had the money, I would. But that's just it. We're finally at the place where just about everything gets paid off every month. In a year, we might even be able to buy groceries with some consistency. In two years (less if the state will start giving raises again) I might be able to put some money in a savings account. But for right now we're making due with what we can. (And the next time my College calls asking for money, I'll tell them exactly where my degree got me, and how I want my student loan money back).

I wish this person luck in her fundraiser. I wish her success. But honestly, the only way I will run, is if she gets a bear to chase me.

And just you watch... she'll show up at my door with a bear!

Follow up: The dreaded day...

Ok, I overreacted. I lost a pound, which is my weekly goal.

I had a frozen dinner after the meeting, but I accompanied it with a piece of ciabatta bread (you know, to soak up the sauce). It was glorious! Seriously, good Italian bread (or garlic bread) and tomato sauce is a favorite of mine.

This weekend I need to clean, make sure I exercise, and more sure not to give into the chocolate craving.

The chocolate craving the professors around here aren't helping. They are bringing me chocolate!Link

So You Think You Can Dance!

I ADORE this show. My ex never let me watch it live. Now the Spousal Equivalent and I watch it together.

I've been surfing the blog-o-sphere, and have run into people that say that SYTYCD has a pro-contemporary bias. Why? Because most of the other styles have to go to Choreography first before they go to Vegas.

Well... yes! Many styles (hip hop, break dancing, krump, some ballroom) don't use choreography the same way that the choreographers on the show do. They may be an excellent b-boy, but can't dance with a partner.

Don't worry, Vegas week is good for tossing out the Contemporary one trick ponies!

Now I have 2 hopes for the season: 1.) that the Irish Dancer makes the top 20. and 2.) that we get another ballerina!!

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Today is the dreaded day!!

It's Weight Watchers Day!!!

I'm not excited about it.

See, I gained half a pound last week. They always give you that look when you gained. Like they caught you eating a donut. I had 2 small cookies yesterday..... so now I'm paranoid that I gained more weight! I've actually been pretty good this week, except for the small cookies.....

*flails*

But in my defense, I actually got off my butt and exercised this week! Not only did I hike some trails (and Misty has to scars to prove it, poor puppy), but I've been using my Wii.

Now a question. Wii exercise games. Recommendations?